boyfriend said his ex was better in bed

Until, suddenly, it wasnt. Fri 19 Apr 2013 11.40 EDT. Welcome to TwoXChromosomes, a subreddit for both serious and silly content, and intended for women's perspectives. Therefore, your homework if anything would be to learn to be more comfortable in your skin and embrace your own sexuality as a woman. That said, she adds that the couple who are still together did slowly get more used to each other. You have every right to be upset. She wasnt shy or uptight, and we were comfortable with each other., Its not just the unsatisfied partner that suffers, either. The first thing you need to do is get over any embarrassment you may have surrounding sex and your sexual desires. The reason I am writing is regarding two issues. A third overheard his fiance gush longingly about her ex-boyfriend, calling him a comparatively better lover. Needless to say, people in the comments thought the girlfriend was being completely inappropriate. female reader, xtbone151x+, writes (26 June 2013): A I imagine a great many people have that one wow person from their past, but you don't post about it on facebook for your wife/husband, friends, and other family to read. But, what you must understand is that sex does not in any way, shape or form rely on a person's experience with it. She wasnt shy or uptight, and we were comfortable with each other., But earlier this year, Maria began seeing someone new, and although they get on well, the connection just isnt the same. He added: "I made a joke saying, 'yeah Ill get there one day since this was literally our first time doing anything. And thatll leave you in a tricky situation, as having to explain to your boyfriend that youve only been faking sexual pleasure all along is going to be a very uncomfortable situation. Like most things, we get better at something when we have clear instructions how to do it! ", Meanwhile, a third wrote: "Even if it were true, things like this should just remain unsaid.". after his girlfriend complained about his size, before declaring that the sex in her previous relationship had been way better). reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): A To see all content on The Sun, please use the Site Map. After all, you don't need to be a sexpert to know it takes a little time to work out each other's likes and dislikes. If yes, then I would read him the riot act, tell him it had better not happen again, and let it go. For further details of our complaints policy and to make a complaint please click this link: thesun.co.uk/editorial-complaints/, I mistakenly told my husband my ex was better in bed, Furious boyfriend storms Salt Bae's restaurant as girlfriend TWERKS for chef, I'm struggling after having a hot threesome with my art teacher, Lockdown has separated devastated Peggy from her son Tom, Independent Press Standards Organisation (IPSO). Also, find out why she was better and step up your game in the bedroom. GOT a story? They say there was an argument between the victim and the suspect, and moments later, the stabbing happened. female Should I just walk away? I really, truly, didnt know how to handle it.. I recently asked what about my body and he basically said that from a objective point of view her (his ex) body is better than mine but he's still more physically attracted to me and has enjoyed sex a lot more. ', "And she was kinda dismissive and just said 'yeah.'". So, a lack of experience can mean hes not even sure what he likes, let alone able to figure out what you like. We just had a laugh about it and she told me to never do it again, and that was it., The candor is paying off: The sex is getting better now. male WebThe reason you think sex with your ex was better is because youre not taking responsibility for your sex life and your relationship right now. Dont expect him to magically know what you want by telepathy. ), Winter believes its ultimately for the best. To me it seems like she enjoys sex with me but doesnt believe I will ever be as good as her ex, He wrote: "To me it seems like she enjoys sex with me but doesnt believe I will ever be as good as her ex.". reader, kirra07+, writes (31 October 2012): A reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): A If you and your boyfriend are still together, then obviously this isnt the case. The were laughing and sounding intoxicated, basically having fun.During the converstion I over heard them start talking about men and sex. ', "And she was kinda dismissive and just said 'yeah.'". Its working for Maria, who is also still with her girlfriend, I told her that I faked an orgasm with her when we first started going out, she says. He is lovely and tells me how much he loves me everyday and says that Im the love of his life, and I feel the same way. My question is, if a guy admits he's had better but still enjoys the sex for all it's fun, will he stay?I'm wondering if it's enough tobkerpnhim. She insists it is over and that she has no feelings for him. His sexual past might have been good but they won't compare to how his experience will be with you. Then I was humiliated. If your partner isnt satisfying you sexually, tell them (just maybe skip your latent lust for your ex). January 29, 2022, 6:21 pm. A lot of these come from open forum sites like Quora or Reddit, with people of all genders loudly asking for advice about their lackluster love lives. Demonstrate how sexy you find him by making the first move and coming on strong to him. 679215 Registered office: 1 London Bridge Street, London, SE1 9GF. Unless one of her exs is some psychopath or is still trying to romantically be in her life, I dont think its any of my business.But this hit me hard. The point is YOU'RE HURT, because this is hurtful. I mean, what the hell are you supposed to do if your partner thinks youre a bore in bed? Ive been together with my boyfriend for a year now and I would say the relationship is pretty serious. Guys can't read your mind and it gets tiring risking rejection. Words have their limits. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! Tell him what you want. reader, TasteofIndia+, writes (18 September 2010): A If yes, then I I know I'm not the same (sexually) in regards to my lower half. He wrote: "She mentioned an ex of hers knew her body best and that he was the best sex shes had.". I knew I was tighter before but hearing him admit he's had better.not sure what to do. And youre wondering if theres anything you can do about it. reader, OhGetReal+, writes (16 October 2010): A He tells his now-girlfriend that he will, and I quote, Not ice out everybody in his life for some new relationship. Translation: I am not ready to commit and have no ability to get over these women Ive been under. The Sun website is regulated by the Independent Press Standards Organisation (IPSO), Our journalists strive for accuracy but on occasion we make mistakes. 679215 Registered office: 1 London Bridge Street, London, SE1 9GF. The thing that prompted this post is, even though he has told me before, I was scrolling FB just now and saw a post saying "describe one thing your ex was good at" and he responded with "sex. We absolutely understand why you are a bit shocked and feel uncomfortable having been told that bit of information. So, be confident and show him what you got! reader, JustHelpinAgain+, writes (1 November 2012): A and perhaps even unnecessary, at the very least he did not mean it in a malicious way. However, that still didn't stop her from bringing up an old flame. 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Im 92 but still rock minidresses - I've got a 2 secret to looking young, Mum swears by M&S after comparing her weekly shop there to Tesco's, I left the hospital with my newborn only to find out I'm pregnant again, Man who got Turkey teeth says people cant stop swooning over him, News Group Newspapers Limited in England No. My boyfriend and his ex dated for four years, and though he has told me numerous times that they both knew it wasn't working, she was the one to ultimately end it, and he says that it's simply because he 'didn't want to be the one to give up on something he invested so much time into.' This is hurtful. (For what its worth, this topic doesnt seem to be presented much in mens media, despite the pretty even gender split on Reddit. Light some candles and get the massage oils out. The first time we had sex felt like a really bad cup of coffee, she says. I did not know that my husband would include himself in the ranking. I know, I know. Find out the funny places where hes ticklish or where delicate kisses turn him on and get him to map out your body in the same way. If hes still caught up on his ex, thats his problem and he shouldnt be There are plenty of articles on the topic, too, which all offer consolatory platitudes about how best to handle terminal sexual chemistry. reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): A reader, shrodingerscat+, writes (31 October 2012): Already have an account? Just.wtf?! Dear Alice, My girlfriend and I have been having sex with each other for the last six months. I told my boyfriend my ex is much better in bed hes upset but hes got to learn some way Lydia Hawken Published: 15:08, 13 Nov 2021 Updated: 15:30, 13 Nov Chip Chick Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. If you can't be with someone supportive and loving who treats you well then it's probably better to be alone for a while rather than with someone who tears you down. So, hes a product of his environment, yes. You may provide consistency and fidelity. And it felt amazing., Maria, 31, from L.A., also struggles with ex nostalgia. In my opinion, specifics of your sexual activities should NEVER be discussed outside of your relationship unless permission is given. Tickle Me Kaczynski: How the Inventor of the Ultimate Elmo Toy Became a Unabomber Suspect, Real Italians Put Hot Dogs and French Fries on Their Pizza, The Other Drug War: Inside the World of Counterfeit Viagra, The $65 Million Art Heist That Put Oceans Eleven to Shame. Homicide warrants have been secured on Parson and police are actively searching for the Gastonia man. Its treacherous terrain. Seems like a red flag if I ever saw one. He wants to protect her, care for her, be the apple of her eye in every regard. Get expert help dealing with problems in the bedroom. Okay, remember how we agreed to leave any embarrassment at the bedroom door? I'm sorry to you that he would even say anything. Unfortunately for one man, this is the exact scenario he's found himself in with his new girlfriend. I know the chances of me being the best lover she's ever had were maybe fifty percent at best just for the reason she is so incredibly attractive, she could have her pick of men , so the idea that I was better than all of them was wishful thinking at best. We were probably still in the honeymoon period when he called me by his ex-girlfriend's name during sex. You are being WAY too nice. by But if discussing your wants and needs with a sexual partner makes you blush, you need to make a conscious effort to put that to one side. Itll help you both figure out exactly what buttons you need to push to turn the other one on. "The Sun", "Sun", "Sun Online" are registered trademarks or trade names of News Group Newspapers Limited. I couldnt sleep that night, and I went through a myriad of emotions while laying there. female 1. I believe sex is a big part of a relationship. I'm a male and I'm completely honest with my SO. WebA husband of a few months or years probably doesnt have the same amount of time invested in that exploration yet. Dont assume that just because he climaxes, hes had a really enjoyable experience. It is incredibly disrespectful and a complete mistrust. For other inquiries, Contact Us. How do I move past my worry and insecurity with this? It doesnt work like that. you should probably ask him to stop. They all laughed at this which in turn made me feel sick to my stomach.Ufortuatley I had to urinate at this poit and got up to use the restroom. Simply, 10 Big Differences Between Making Love And Having Sex, 9 Tips For Couples Whose Sex Drives Are Mismatched, We Dont Have Sex Anymore 10 Reasons Why And Advice For Each. You The unbridled wildness of your partners ex may have been out-of-control, and ultimately, destructive to the relationship., Besides, she adds, its important to remember that no ones perfect. Now its time to think about what you can do to change things so that you both enjoy sex. Sign up for Chip Chicks newsletter and get stories like this delivered straight to your inbox. - InsecureGirl. I'd say this issue needs couples counseling, as it's better to have a mediator at this point. He said: Out of everyone youve had sex with, who was the best?. Another redditor found out that his partner had been posting publicly on a womans homemaking forum about an Italian guy with the thickest penis she [had] ever been with (it gave her jello legs). Secondly, the act of sex is an extremely personal and subjective experience that to try and predict whether someone will be 'good at it' or not is close to impossible. View our online Press Pack. Completely crushed my confidence and trust. WebSaying s/he was better than you in bed is horrific. 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Because of all the posts Ive been seeing I asked my Doctors say men are getting more vasectomies amid After Man Kills His Wife, Mother-in-Law, Five Children Press J to jump to the feed. , The unbridled wildness of your partners ex may have been out-of-control, and ultimately, destructive to the relationship., Besides, she adds, its important to remember that no ones perfect. reader, Candid Cally+, writes (31 October 2012): A Naturally, the man has started panicking a bit and interpreted his girlfriend's comments as her saying he'll never compare. I saw this was upsetting her so I just stopped this converstion and told her that i just felt humiliated at the time and should not have to apologize for liking what she likes.I have not brought it up since, there is no point. View related questions: But last week my insecurities have just boiled over when his friend came over they were talking in the living room of the flat while I was working in the bedroom, she explained. For her, the answer lies in trying to find validation outside of the bedroom, and to stop mythologizing any former lovers. The passion that your mate thought was so exciting may have been volatile and chaotic, she hypothesizes. She definitely just took it was a direct comparison that wasnt in her favor. reader, CindyCares+, writes (31 October 2012): A Theres always a give-and-take, and what you do offer to the relationship may be essential for your mates happiness. Hes just not quite pushing your buttons. female Other than this one transgression, is he a good husband? Dont just ask him to be more intimate. Try harder? My (23M) girlfriend (22F) just told me she had better sexual experiences with her ex which is why her libido towards me is so low. If you want him to be an attentive lover who wants to drive you wild with pleasure, you need to be that for him too. First of all, lets have a look at a few reasons why your boyfriend might not currently be a good lover. I dont ask those types of things.I try not to be jealous although I am at times when she talks about her exs( which is rare). Its not an insecurity issue becasue she stated he was better, he gave her more plaesure sexually. female WebWhen it comes to the connection alone, it is clear that you are already 10 steps ahead of where his ex was, considering they broke up and your partner is about to spend the rest of reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2012): A (For what its worth, this topic doesnt seem to be presented much in mens media, despite the pretty even gender split on Reddit. She Overheard Her Boyfriend Telling His Best Friend That His Ex Was Better In Bed Than She Is by Chip Chick January 29, 2022, 6:21 pm shurkin_son - stock.adobe.com This is where they realized I was there. Or is communication just an overrated conspiracy, and should we all remain oblivious of our coital flaws? The next morning over breakfast she brought up what she said and apologized for it. He is 33 and I am 29. You dont need to do anything to be a better girlfriend, youve done absolutely nothing wrong. Sharing his dilemma on Reddit, the 19-year-old explained how he's been seeing his partner for about a month and they just consummated their relationship. Even if bad sex isnt a dealbreaker for you, honesty will only serve to bring you closer and the more upfront you are, the more likely the problem is to be fixed. Of course, if youre the one on the receiving end of this criticism, that kind of honesty can be hard to take. According to author and relationship expert Susan Winter, its only natural to start thinking of them as a benchmark. Its different every single time you do it. Everything was perfect. I receive a commission if you choose to purchase anything after clicking on them. It is never nice hearing about your partner's past relationships let alone hearing about the details of his sexual past. Do I really want to be out-of-control like that again? Ive given up on trying to make [my boyfriend] better, and Ive accepted that were just not sexually compatible, she says. Because he might not have had all that much actual sex if hes never had long-term relationships that meant he was having sex with the same person regularly. All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft, Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column. He was well-dressed, spiritually-attuned and financially stable. There's no "right" to be hurt. The more comfortable you become in your relationship and the better you understand what goes on in their mind, the more deeply youll connect on a sexual level. But again, how exactly do you deal with this situation? I have always prided myself on being a good lover.The greater amount of pleasure she gets from our lovemaking the more manly I feel.I always keep communication open with her and I have always told her that nothing, short of adding someone else to our bedroom is taboo.Whatever she wants, any fantasy,Im there to make her happy and satisfied. Anyone with information on his whereabouts is asked to call Kings Mountain Police at (704) 734-0444 or Cleveland County Crime Stoppers at (704) 481-TIPS. male A. Login first This Woman Was The Very First Person To Go Over The Niagra Falls Inside Of A Barrel, And She Lived To Tell The Tale. The lack of whatever is desired is a dealbreaker. WebIt doesn't matter who he's liked better in bed or what he thinks about marriage, YOUR ACTIONS are so wrong he deserves to at least know who's he's in a relationship with. Frankly, I would question why OP's husband would be discussing an ex at all, especially after 4 years of marriage. Our likes and dislikes evolve and fluctuate, from day to day and from year to year. It is actually not unusual for people to move from an ex to another partner, only to find out that no matter how great the new partner is, they just cant match up to Simply click here to chat. One replied: "She seems to lack empathy and may still be hung up on her ex. male Send an email to problems@deardeidre.org. One of her friends asked how I compared to and old lover of hers, specifically a friend of hers that she still works with.In no uncertein terms she said that her ex( the coworker) was better than me in bed only because he had a much larger penis( I am average in every sense of the word in that department)but that that she thought I was terrfic in bed and wouldnt change anything except for maybe that one thing(my penis). You need to practice! ), Winter believes its ultimately for the best. Some men struggle to understand that every woman is different. Instead, it sounded more like it was just a sincere comment, which just so happened to come out during a sharing session you both were having. This service is provided on News Group Newspapers' Limited's Standard Terms and Conditions in accordance with our Privacy & Cookie Policy. First of all, yikes! You may provide consistency and fidelity. At first, I was angry. Even if they did have better sexual chemistry with you than your current partner, theyre still an ex, and probably for a good reason. I am so heartbroken. I started directing her in bed, and when she did something I liked, Id moan and give her signals that shes doing a good job.. It is inconsiderate even i it is the truth. To me it seems like she enjoys sex with me but doesnt believe I will ever be as good as her ex, He wrote: "To me it seems like she enjoys sex with me but doesnt believe I will ever be as good as her ex.". Scheduled sex doesnt have to mean boring, unfulfilling sex. (throw out the whole girl, would rather die, etc. Ive been in relationships before that i didnt care the sex was so so because of how I felt for the person at the time, but it did not change the reality that the sex was still so so.Why is it hard for some of the people here to understand is that when a man loves a woman deeply he wants to be her "best" he wants to be her hero whether she needs saving or not. My ex-girlfriend was experienced, understood my body language and was open to different stuff sexually, she writes over Reddit DM. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. No, thank you. Think about whether other issues in your relationship, like a lack of trust or a fear of commitment or being vulnerable with each other might be coming between you in the bedroom. Agreed, this is something that should stay between the two of you unless otherwise discussed. Have some confidence in yourself and the fact that your sex life together will be a wonderful one simply because it will be. reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): A Addressing those underlying issues will inevitably help with the emotional side of sex, which will mean more enjoyment of it all round. reader, OhGetReal+, writes (18 September 2010): A She had also, completely unexpectedly, fallen in love. co-worker, fiance, her ex, insecure, jealous, wedding. ! she says. My ex-girlfriend was experienced, understood my body language and was open to different stuff sexually, she writes over Reddit DM. Or that he prioritizes his own pleasure above yours. The main reason he might not be that great in bed is because he lacks sexual experience in general. He added: "I made a joke saying, 'yeah Ill get there one day since this was literally our first time doing anything. A flame that burns that hot doesnt last., This was certainly the case for Clara, who left her previous partner after three years of gaslighting, screaming fights and mind-blowing sex. If you have to schedule it because of work or other commitments, do it. I mean I appreciate the honesty, but why tell other people? Am I right to be hurt? Why would he awful. But one surefire way to kill the spark? Maybe he saw her as Take it in turn to massage each other and cover every inch of each others bodies. a bore in bed? Chat online to a relationship expert from Relationship Hero who can help you figure things out. Its all about trial and error. reader, alex74+, writes (2 November 2012): A It all depends if you can stomach knowing youre second-best. I'm embarrased to even elaborate but I know I had great feedback before. reader, So_Very_Confused+, writes (31 October 2012): A Additionally, her boyfriend is far more experienced, and she is more reserved and awkward when it comes to social situations. Im sure you dont need me to tell you that. It's an immature and insensitive thing to say. I used to go out with, who I wont name, because he was so wild in bed. It's one thing to communicate with your spouse about this issue, but to pore over social media about it is wrong and hurtful. I have never been single or had problems getting dates. The best thing to do would be to remember that she loves YOU and is marrying YOU. Not her ex. Try to work on forgiving her for her meanness. It's ugly what she said, yes, but forgiveness is the only way to truly heal. Been secured on Parson and police are actively searching for the best? struggles with ex nostalgia remember! 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